Insecurity is that inner voice that constantly tells you that you are not good enough. It is the feeling of being threatened by someone or something else; and while it is perfectly normal to doubt yourself every once in a while, if this insecurity gets out of hand, it can sabotage your relationships.
Many people think that insecurities stem from a mistake made by a partner—something they did, something they said, etc.—but that couldn’t be further from the truth: most insecurities come from within ourselves, as a representation of our interior.
Most of the time, the problem is deeply rooted in the past, commonly starting with parental neglect and painful experiences of loss early on, creating a negative inner constitution.
Most insecurities in relationships are based on irrational thoughts, fears, and harsh self-criticism that makes you believe that you are not good enough, or lovable enough or worthy of having a loving and caring partner.
If you experience these feelings, this is a good time to start looking into ways to fix them. Here are a few.
Build Your Self-Esteem
Research suggests that people with lower self-esteem display greater insecurity in relationships. When you don’t view yourself as someone who’s worthy of love and affection, it’s only natural to look outwards to gain validation.
However, relying on other people, like your partner, to help you feel good about yourself can put a lot of stress on your intimate relationships. Making your wellbeing dependent on outside approval means that you’re giving all of your power away.
Actively working on building your self-esteem will lend you the joy of being in a loving and wholesome relationship and the self-confidence that genuinely liking yourself brings.
To build your self-esteem, one of the most effective methods is to learn to silence your inner critic and practice self-compassion and love.
Reframe Your Negative Memories using NIKU
Feelings of insecurity are commonly rooted in early childhood, in the form of painful and stressful experiences or suppressed negative feelings. These feelings hinder our personal development and growth and cause harm to our intimate relationships.
Reframing gives these negative memories a new perspective, increasing mental and emotional stability. The reframing process involves the implantation of Mental Neuroimplants that help generate positive feelings of acceptance and appreciation towards the past.
To try out reframing, download NIKU, an app that works on ‘reframing of needs’ principal and functions as an online psychological counselor or a life coach, helping you look at life with a fresh, new perspective.
The app is available to download on both the Apple App Store and the Google PlayStore.
