David (name changed) is 25 years old, has already completed his training as an industrial clerk and is currently working on his Master’s in International Marketing at Munich Business School.
David recently signed up on niku.de as a tester. Here is his story.
When David was a little boy, not even 5 years old, his mother died. The loss has left painful marks on his biography.
David can hardly remember his mother, and he still misses her every day. The student has fallen in love more than once. But he can hardly allow physical closeness, and pain quickly catches up with him. “It is as though this feeling of intimacy and security slips out of my hands easily, as if something goes missing,” he says, “I suffer a lot because of it. In addition, there are the sleep disorders.
David often wakes up in the middle of the night and cannot fall asleep again. Then his thoughts spin around, painful feelings circle in his head. (NIKU needs: devotion, love).
The young man is intelligent, has a good high school diploma, and completed his apprenticeship with flying colours. Colleagues and professors have repeatedly attested to his quick comprehension and high level of intelligence. However, learning at university does not progress as he would wish. (NIKU Needs: understanding, learning).
“The silent cry”, that’s what he calls the inner torments. “I would like to be held so badly. At the same time, I’m almost afraid of losing my first date. The other day I couldn’t get the thought out of my head that I would feel like a baby if I allowed my feelings for a fellow student to continue. The thought confused me.”
A friend of his father’s told him about the NIKU App. David contacted me spontaneously and quickly had his first successes. “I started to develop scenarios and let my feelings and intuition create stories” he says.
“I tried to imagine that I was little and that my mother was holding me tight. It didn’t really work out because the memory of my mother is too faded. I lay with closed eyes on the sofa and suddenly a scene from a film came to my mind, in which a mother held her child in her arms. This scene had once touched me emotionally.”
David searched for pictures and uploaded them to the app.
In retrospect, this first evening with the app seemed rather chaotic to him, he remembers, “It wasn’t easy for me to put my needs into words. But I did not give up and the beautiful idea of fulfillment gave way to a good feeling of security, affection and closeness. That night he slept deeply and soundly. In the morning he still had the picture of the mother with the child before his eyes.
The beautiful feeling of security was still there. He felt like the child and could feel the physical closeness of this mother. And there was absolutely nothing unpleasant about it. Quite the opposite.
From day to day David’s condition improved. Again and again, immediately after waking up, he returned with his thoughts to the scenario he had imagined the evening before.
“It was quite strange,” he says, “I had the feeling that I was becoming more open-minded, going out was no longer an obligatory event, I had a completely new attitude towards life – and even my friends and fellow students spoke to me about it. Unfortunately my learning difficulties were still there. I can’t afford to lose a semester. That would be very annoying.”
David also tried a scenario here. This one played in his childhood and actually happened. “It was with my friend Micha. His father had several regiments of tin soldiers, which fascinated me very much at that time. Actually we children were not allowed to play with it, but one day Micha’s father counted soldiers together with us, then took some away and put some down again.
We boys were thrilled. At the same time I was a little jealous of Micha: “My own dad never took so much time for me and played so extensively with me, let alone did homework or taught me something,” he says.
David also imagined this scenario again and again, in the evening he changed and improved his scenario, as his imagination and intuition dictated to him, he even thought of a helping mother for it.
In the morning he remembered the feeling as he had done with the child his mother’s arms. “It felt like I was growing wings. And still today I think of these loving, encouraging parents when I sit in the library and learn. They are always there and encourage me.” Since then, David’s concentration has improved enormously and he has been able to increase his learning success.
What happens in David’s inner world?
David has already read many self-help books to pull himself out of his misery. He did not want to be content with the fact that his fate had a negative influence on his life.
With NIKU, he was finally able to overcome the hurdle. With the app, he was deeply immersed in his emotional life and has actively built up inner representations. The app showed him the way to his needs and helped him to experience the scenarios intensively.
How can this be explained neuroscientifically?
The inner experience is anchored in the brain as a memory as well as a real experience. The psychological neuroimplants, (insert link) chosen by David, took effect. The very own, deep, lovable experiences are thus implanted and integrated into one’s own experience. The best guides are intuition, gut feeling and the heart.
In a way, David has re-experienced his unfulfilled needs, made them visible and intuitively found a solution. He immersed himself in his emotional world and corrected the contents of his emotional states.
NIKU is a tool that everyone can use for themselves.
It’s like a door that doesn’t open easily: when we manage to open it, a fresh breeze comes in. With NIKU, it is possible to create an attitude towards life as if one had experienced things as they should have been. And then life begins to be enjoyable.