Do you feel that maybe happiness isn’t meant for you sometimes? You work day in and day out to be able to afford that car you thought would make you happy, but you still feel empty inside?
You married your long-term partner thinking companionship would lead to happiness and joy but even that has faded?
Do you sometimes feel that nothing you ever do will truly give you the joy you crave?
Surprisingly, you’re not the only one who feels this way. Around the world, almost one in three people report that they are worried, stressed or dissatisfied with their lives—leading to unhappiness.
Science suggests that this is because we’re looking for happiness in the wrong place.
In order to be truly happy, here are three behaviors you must adopt.
Stop Expecting Specific Outcomes
Happiness isn’t circumstantial. Rather, it’s in the acceptance of whatever result comes out of a situation.
In other words, if you keep expecting certain outcomes from certain situations, you might just be setting yourself up for disappointment. Whereas with accepting that whatever outcome comes around, you’re opening yourself to a new perspective and experience that eliminates negative feelings.
Define Your Success Yourself
One of the reasons people are unhappy is because they feel that they haven’t achieved or are incapable of achieving success. This results in feelings of failure.
It is important to understand that success is subjective and isn’t defined by the way other people around are achieving it.
A better approach to look at success is to personalize it. Set realistic daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals that would give you a clear picture of what success means to you.
You’d be surprised to find out how different it turns out to be from what you had in mind.
Practice Gratefulness
One of the best ways to generate a feeling of positivity and happiness within yourself is to focus on the things you already have.
A study conducted by Harvard professors concludes, with comprehensive evidence, that adopting a grateful attitude can make you happy.
So, are you ready to get started on the journey to finding positivity and happiness within yourself? In some cases, you may need external help.
Sometimes, if you have unmet needs from your early childhood, you may need to overcome them to aid your process of being truly happy.
The NIKU app is a form of self-help that functions as an personal online coach and allows you to look into and work with highly effective techniques like ‘reframing of needs’ and ‘neuropsychological implants’ to give your unmet needs a new context, making them easier to meet.
To download the app, visit the Apple App Store and the Google Play Store depending on your phone.
If you’re interested in reading more about NIKU and its principles, stay tuned for the e-book coming out soon!
