We love them, our seniors, and the world would be much poorer without them. They provide us with an insight into a fully lived life. They are not only years ahead of us but also offer wisdom that attracts us – we feel unknowing in their presence. We admire their composure at times when we are giddy with excitement and their inner peace when we are scared to death. Their sense of enlightenment is what attracts us while we insist on “our right”, full of projections and looking for conflicts. They have the grace that we are far from achieving.
Without our “elders”, we would actually look old ourselves. Why? Because they are the balance of the soul and the womb of our childhood.
For their own psychological development, people need other people in order to develop psychologically. Everyone knows that. However, it is not yet generally understandable what exactly this involves and how people can deal with inner ties and relationships from the past.
The Stability
When children start to throw around accusations, which occurs at puberty at the latest, they normally complain that: “You don’t understand anything!” or “You don’t know anything about me!”. Throughout childhood and continuing into puberty, the character of the personality strengthens as a result of friction with people in a person’s local environment. We call it the “surrounding atmosphere” that shapes people and as comfortable as you may sometimes feel in this atmosphere, at other times you may want to run away and leave it behind.
Habit plays a big role in this. You have to get out of the bad environment sooner or later – a topic that we will go on to explore in more detail.
Children do not judge; they perceive and adapt what they receive. However, children are able to suspect things and can precisely distinguish between right and wrong. The struggle with their parents is exhausting for them, which is the most natural thing in the world. Children find comfort and support in the womb and in the wise words of their grandparents.
There is nothing better than a tight hug, being held and feeling comforted. Such actions are taken for granted but are actually anything but a matter of course. Most people didn’t have such experiences in their childhood and now live in an atmosphere of impoverished psychological resources. In the later stages of life, you can clearly feel whether you have inner resources that you can access or not.
People Have No Disorders
People Have Needs
Even now, people still avoid discussing why some people feel comfortable in their own skin while others do not. People go to psychotherapy sessions because it’s the only way to talk to someone. The disadvantage: such sessions are usually covered by health insurance companies, meaning that you have to be sick for your insurance to apply and are therefore diagnosed with a ‘disorder’.
Wouldn’t it be great to have a grandma or grandpa who can hold you tight when that’s precisely what you need? Who will comfort you or call you to reason when appropriate?
These internal representations – as they are known in the world of psychology – cannot be replaced by therapy or coaching.
Only one thing can help (and if someone knows of a better option, please feel free to contact me): mental neuroimplants, namely implants of scenarios. If these are missing, you will quite literally go crazy. You are weaker if these implants do not form part of your biography.
Role Models Are More Than Role Models – Lived Scenarios
Scenarios are like excerpts from a film but are also excerpts from our own lives. We store them in memories that are particularly emotional. They ensure that our surrounding atmosphere is internalized. You need a good surrounding atmosphere to develop resources.
Most of these are needs that were not met during childhood. Scenarios are more than compensation for something because they can be designed to be vibrant, benevolent, and emotionally active, leading to immediate relief from inner pain and reassurance. The lasting effect arises if you repeat the scenarios frequently. You can then also break the habits that were negative and replace them with positive ones.
These scenarios become part of your inner self, an inner support, just like your grandfather or grandmother would have been if he or she had been here at this moment.
It is never too late to have a happy childhood. Think in scenarios!
The best way to create and experience such scenarios is with the NIKU app: https://niku-neuro.com/the-niku-app/ . You can read more about this at: www.niku-neuro.com and can find books on this subject at: https://niku-neuro.com/niku-books/ . If you have any questions, please feel free to write to me at: info@niku.de .
